Earlier this year I was starting to realize turmoil in my relationship with my oldest daughter. We argued a lot, she turned on attitude with every request I made. I felt a little hopeless knowing she was only 11.
One day I went to the library and got a big fat book. She loves to read, but just looking at the book overwhelmed her. I suggested we read it together.
Every night before bed we shut ourselves into her room and I read her a chapter. Slowly as the nights progressed our relationship started to mend. We both loved that time together. We just finished the book last weekend. It was a great experience for both of us. We can’t wait to start another book, but it is her sister’s turn to read with me for awhile.
It isn’t hard to fit in the Individual time when I make it a priority. There are so many little things that can be done to give them the attention that they need. Here are a few ideas for you and your daughters:
- Go to the library and pick out a special book to read together
- Go to the coffee shop for a special drink (leave your cell phone in the car)
- Have a special lunch or supper date
- Go on a picnic in the park (Let her help you make your lunch and pack the basket)
- Rollerblade, bike ride or go for a nature walk
- Print off some pictures and work on a scrapbook together
- Make supper together (Let her pick the menu)
- Put together a puzzle
- Have a movie night in or take her out to the movie
The things we do together don’t have to be big and extravagant. Sometimes the littlest things make the biggest and best memories. Just sitting at the piano while my girls practice without my laptop on or a book in my hands shows them that I am paying attention.